Other Peoples Expectations

So the first two posts were lessons about personal expectations. This one is about other people's expectations. What do you do when a friend continually has unrealistic or lofty expectations? Ask yourself a few questions:

1) If you are the type of person that wants to make people happy all the time and you sacrifice yourself to do this, run away FAST from these types of high expectation people. You will have a miserable friendship.

2) If you are the type of person who doesn't give a crap about other people's silly expectations, then chances are you don't care and can laugh at your friends like this. However, proceed with guarded caution and don't make too much of an effort, your high expectation friends will one day self-implode.

3) If you like drama, then these people will be your best friends because they always get themselves into trouble and have something to make into an ordeal.

People with high expectations tend to be irritating, but part of being a mature adult is understanding and accepting people for who they are. You don't have to be friends with everyone and dumping friends that cause stress in your life or are all about themselves can be very liberating.

So how do you recognize the signs of these people? People with unrealistic/lofty expectations generally:
-Focus all about themselves (Example- what you did to offend them, what other people do to offend them, how people should do things their way)
-Are quick to call everyone out on how they are wrong or quick to correct people to their way
-Tell you things at the last minute and expect you to jump when they demand it
-Are generally hypocritical and get mad at things that don't make any sense to anyone but themselves.

Well, good luck wading through the world of expecations, until the next lesson....

Proceed At Your Own Risk - Career Expectations

It sounds wierd to me to say that I have a career, but after many years of trying out different things, I have fallen into a distinct career role of shooting in the dark, fixing things that can't be fixed, and stomping my feet out of frustration. Because most of spend much of our lives at work or working, expectations of the work environment fall into the "biggest let down" category.

Here are some tips:

1) Don't expect for people to actually do their jobs listed on their job description. Just because "something" is someone's job or fall into their area of responsibility doesn't mean it will be done. Its much easier to look confused and shocked when someone asks you why something isn't done, than to do it in the first place.

2) Don't expect for people to tell you everything you need to know to do your job correctly. Its much easier for your manager or supervisor to get on your case about something when you are left in the dark.

3) Don't expect members of your unit/team to not embarrass you or sell you out to other people in the company. Team spirit and unit cohesion are just things printed on motivational posters and not really rules to follow.

Things Never To Expect From The Male Persuasion

A good friend and I were talking and realized our issues were with our expectations, we expect too much and we are the type of girls that hate bullsh*t, gossip, girly grudges, and when men act like 6 year olds. Mainly the problem is with expectations. So to start off this blog. Here a a few tips of things never to expect from our male friends/lovers/undefined presence in our lives, etc.:

1) Don't expect a guy to relate to you, especially about things such as, why one of your other girlfriends is being a girl. CAVEAT: Unless this guy is trying to get into your pants, then he may relate to you about just about anything.

2) Don't expect a guy to read your mind. CAVEAT: If you do vocalize what you think about something, such as the fact that the death metal band he is listening to right now in the car is not your favorite, you are automatically being a total bitch.

3) Don't expect because a guy did something totally awesome once, he will do it again. Some guys are nice and will do nice things over and over, but if you start to expect it, the behavior will come to an abrupt, violent halt and you will be left pissed off.

Okay, thats enough for today's lesson. Check in next time......